hey idk if y'all know this but dont put cigarettes out on dry skin without being okay with an actual fuck ton of damage. lemme explain:
i see too many people (mostly new doms with too much to prove) reduce cigarette play to ONLY fully extinguishing the cig on dry skin. i say dry as in "no one spit there first." this is a third degree burn. it will melt past ur actual skin tissue and reach fat and muscle. i once knew a girl who fully lost motion in three fingers because of having a cigarette put out on the back of her hand. Similarly i knew someone whose kink inflicted cig burn got seriously fucking infected, and because of how deep the burn goes - the infection almost got into his blood stream.
i seriously seriously suggest you start with talking about the implications of long lasting, serious tissue damage to your dom/sub before EVER doing this; and especially never out of no where with someone you have never got consent for this for. The tissue damage is lasting, and awful. its comparable to a deep gouge, or a serious chemical burn.
So. How do u practice cigarette play safely? well, to start, as you would with ANY fucking kink, talk it out. Make sure both sides of the act are fully aware and fully consentinf. Next; there are actually a lot of really fun and safe ways to use cigarette burns.
Firstly, if its about pain (and if you watch older european bdsm films u will already know this one) brushing the cherry (lit tip) of a cigarette across the skin in short, deliberate bursts. this induces both pain and shock, but leaves little to no lasting damage. be careful as to position the cig on its side, and glide across the skin. if the cherry snags the skin and it ashes, this can become unsexy fast. something about a loose hot coal is harder to control yourself under.
SECONDLY, remember how i specified dry? well, spit and piss freaks out there rejoice because simply pooling some liquid on a spot before putting out a cigarette will nulify a lot of the fire before it can reach the skin. this has the same dominating effect, and involves spitting on ur sub, which everyone loves. you can also pool spit into the end of your/their tongue and put it out there. This one rarely hurts if done right.
if you want a scar, then thats okay. just make sure you know the risks, and practice safe kink. wash the spot immediately afterwards. Make sure the doms hands have been recently sanitized/washed, and that its done in a somewhat clean enviroment. alleyways are fine if ur aftercare game is godly. bandage the wound up as soon as the act is over.
do not neglect this, especially as a dom. It is your fucking place to make sure you aren't doing legitimate, unwanted harm to your sub. failing to do that much, the bare minimum, is honestly fucking pathetic. dont be pathetic. take care of ur subs. take care of urself! nobody wants to find out that what they thought was a consensual kink act was actually awful for your partner.
love yall be safe!
